Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Day 8 - Busy Day!

Wednesdays are often our busiest days, because we have playgroup in the afternoon and a lot of times something in the morning too.

Today my friend J and her little girl K came up for a while. It was so nice to see them! K is adorable and sweet and SO well behaved! There aren't that many toys out yet here since Cecilia's still young enough not to care too much, but K loved the baby toys that were out! Cecilia loves kids so much, so she was thrilled to grin and coo at K at every turn, and she gave great big smiles to J as well! It was so nice to have time with J too; we don't get to see each other as often as we should!

One of the topics that came up throughout our discussion on parenting was leaving the baby with someone else. I asked J how old K was the first time she left her with her husband or with someone else, and she was very frank in saying that she didn't want to do it at all, and waited until K was able to go longer than a couple of hours without nursing, and ate some solids, probably around 9 months. That was just to leave K with her husband; it was even longer for leaving her with someone else. The relief I felt must have been really apparent on my face!

I know that a lot of moms go back to work and don't have a choice but to leave their babies. I also know that a lot of moms want a break and take one when they can. I am not knocking either case!! But for me personally, I do not want a break from Cecilia, I do not want to spend time away from her, I do not want to go out on my own. For one thing, she still nurses every couple of hours, so at most I would have an hour out by myself if I did want to go somewhere. She doesn't like bottles and I don't like pushing them on her. But it's more than that. It's simply that I do not want to spend time apart! She is my little tiny baby, and my biggest responsibility right now. It's hard for me to put it into words. I just feel like this is part of my mama bond with her, this very strong desire to have her near me at all times. I feel like the chances of me wanting to go anywhere without Cecilia for at least the first year of her life are very, very slim. It would probably only happen if I didn't have a choice.

In other Cecilia news, she's getting really good at balancing in a bent over sitting position. She can sit like that for over a minute, although it makes her burp (pretty cute). I am amazed every single day at how much she's growing and how quickly she learns new skills. She grabs toys herself now, and brings them to her mouth. She pees on the potty all the time (I'll do an EC post sometime soon). Just waiting for that giggle, that elusive laugh...

8 comments:

  1. Have you tried tickling her? That's usually when I get annas laughs.

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  2. I have! She seems like she is thiiiiiiiiiiis close when I tickle her, it's right on the edge of coming out....and a coo or sigh comes out instead!

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  3. It will come! Liam's laugh starts with a "gshgshgsh" noise then turns into a laugh.

    On leaving baby with Daddy: My dh LOVES having the kids (even Liam the time I took my daughters to the movie) by himself for a few hours at a time. He says it's his way to bond by himself without me right there not-hovering-but-still-kind-of-hovering. Worth a thought!

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  4. I find it interesting about not wanting to leave Cece! I am what i would say "underdeveloped" with reguards to anything besides having kids. I started at being pg at 18...no way to know oneself while many parents i know that say the same things as you had much more time to develop themselves. Not to say that I didn't leave my first for a very very long time...in fact the first night I EVER spent away from him was when he was over 4 yrs old! Now with my 3rd i have left him with my BF many many times already (nothing fun just run to the store for this that or some other errand)!

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  5. What I love the most about all you ladies is that you are totally non-judgmental in telling me how it works for you. Thank you, my dears! <3

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  6. Ooooooh! I can't wait for the EC post! I have a serious addiction. Q is graduated now, yet I still frequent the DS EC board and write about it all the time. :) I'm getting the chance to write some articles for another blog about it soon, too!! Woooooo! Go EC!!!!

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  7. I totally understand. I left Audrey alone for the first time with my husband when she was about 6 months old because I was going to a friend's bridal shower. They had a great time playing without me, but I missed my little girl. The only time she's been without either of us was last weekend when my parents watched her for a couple of hours while we did all the paperwork to buy a new car. She'll be 10 months this weekend. There are times when it would be nice to be away from her long enough to miss her, but even a long nap is plenty for me.

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  8. I know how hard it can be to leave them when they're little, and completely impractical if you're breastfeeding.
    My hubby has always loved having Daddy time with Logan too, so as much as you feel you don't need any me-time it might be worth asking your DH if he would like to have some alone-time. Whatever works for you both!

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